Date Night - Parents you will appreciate this story!

Last Saturday we had a date night with friends to go to a Hibachi restaurant, here in Webster. The food is SOOOO yummy. So our friends live 5-10 minutes away from the restaurant. They left their home and came to the restaurant and we meet them at the entrance. Between the time they left their house and arrived at the restaurant, their youngest fell, and knocked out his two front teeth. He was already missing his two lower teeth. Poor kid. Soooo, one parent returned home and the other stayed with us. Later the first parent meet back up with us so we all still had a really good time. Love the food, and atmosphere there. But would someone PLEASE tell me how to catch a rice ball in your mouth????????

Well, Well, Let us see how I did on my Goals...



Since this is the first time, I have ever, in my life, publicly posted my goals, it has been interesting to say the least. First my dear friends whom read my blog have shared with me what I can cross off of the list. How sweet of them to help me! And the public listing adds a responsibility to me to try harder to accomplish my goals. Interesting feeling. So now that I have been feeling better here is how I did:

My Goals for the first week of the New Year 2012 -

Remember this post on No New Year's Resolutions? Here are my goals as promised!

Health -

Multi Vit. Daily

Emergency C or Airborne Daily
Water Daily
If stamina is built back up begin Zumba

Family -

Plan date night with husband, arrange babysitter

Plan time with Mom (Although I didn't plan anything special, we talk almost daily and I had a meal at her house, plus another coming this weekend.)

Special time with Daughter - Girl Scout meeting

Organizing -

Update Calendar - B-days etc. (I should probably do this, I rely on Facebook.)

Daughter - back to school/calendar etc.

Girl Scout materials gather in one place (again!)
Meal Plan/Coupons
Grocery Shop

Volunteering -

Plan Girl Scout Meeting with co-leaders Tues PM
Implement meeting Thurs. PM

Prepare craft idea for Sun. for MOMS group

Friends -

Schedule Dinner out
Schedule Breakfast out
Send thank you notes to those whom helped me through being sick last week

Read -

Read more and less FB and TV news (I am almost finished with Hunger Games!)

I only have one goal for the week we are currently in and that is to:

Week of Jan. 15 - Jan. 22

Embrace the craziness of life. Seriously, that is my goal.

I have something going on everynight this week, most are functions with my daughter. The weekend brings her kid birthday party which I am hosting at my home on Sat. and Sun. is her real B-day. Her ice skating lesson is on Sunday as well and Dear Hubby is getting ready to go on a training trip. Plus I have some top secret stuff going on too, I'll share when I can.

Winter Fun

How cool is this (no pun intended)? This is my cousin's kid. She was riding her four wheeler and the snow kept on sticking to the front wheels! LOVE it!!!!! They live in Northern New York, near Massena, N.Y. and Ottawa, Canada. I think she will remember this for the rest of her life, her snow joy ride! Too cute!!!!

My First Ever Blog Book Review...

I finished my first book for January (see my book list here)!!! I am excited to say that the book What Got You Here Won't Get You There (How Successful People Become Even More Successful!) by Marshall Goldsmith was well written, kept my attention and tapped into my love of psychology and human nature!!!!! I loved my Psychology major, back in my college days, and this book reminded me of that reading I did in college.

Overall I would probably give it a 5 star out of 5 stars. I think anyone would benefit from reading this book. The author's job is to go to CEOs and "fix" their annoying behavioral problems that bother those under them! He solicits 360 degree feedback from their employees and then gives it back to them! He lets them know what their biggest fault is and what they need to work on.

One of my many favorite parts of this book was when he suggested to the male readers that they should ask their wives "How can I be a better partner?" :-) He states that often whatever your annoying behavioral traits are at work are likely the same at home. And yes we all have THEM (annoying behavioral traits) and we all can improve. After he gives the feed back to his client he then has the client APOLOGIZE to all of their coworkers under them for their bad behavior and then solicit feedforward which is feedback you ask of others, for example "What can I do in the future to get better at X,Y,Z, (ex. be a better listener)?" I love this concept and think that it is so easy for anyone to implement. I loved this book because I feel that ANYONE can read it, ANYONE can implement the suggestions and ANYONE can benefit from this book if they are willing to.

The author mentions:
The three good things that GOOD Listeners Do:

1. Think before they speak.
2. Listen with respect.
3. Gauge their own responses by asking themselves, "Is what I am about to say worth it?"

He adds that keeping your mouth shut IS AN ACTIVE choice.

My Favorite Quotes from this book:

"Without a measurable goal you are much more likely to blow it off."
"If we had a complete grip on reality, seeing every situation for exactly what it is, we wouldn't get out of bed in the morning. After all, the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."

"To gain a friend, let him do you a favor."  - - Ben Franklin

"Goal obsession can cloud your judgement."

"As a result, in our dogged pursuit of our goals we forget our manners. We're nice to people if they can help us hit our goal. We push them out of the way if they are not useful to us. Without meaning to, we can become self-absorbed schemers."

"Today the key to wealth is knowledge."


I think the "take home" for me personally is I have gleaned suggestions for the workplace and at home, I have learned how to be a better listener, I've learned how to ask for feedforward suggestions. It also gave me insight into what the 'bosses' of today are dealing with. A reminder that there is no perfect person and even the MOST successful among us have traits that they can work on. Glad I read it, wasn't disappointed.

One odd thing about the book though, I felt it ended a bit abruptly, I felt that the author was trying to build you back up and make you feel good about yourself and then it felt like it just ended, that part was a little strange to me. Didn't fit with the rest of the book.

How I (not so much) accomplished my goals for the week...

Almost Sunday and time to review my goals for the week. The deal is I was VERY sick the past two weeks. I had viral bronchitis that turned bacterial, plus two trips to urgent care = a MUCH needed Z-pack and ME finally feeling better. So needless to say my goals were seriously put on hold and many will forward on to the next week. As my friend said to me, "It makes you appreciate your health more." So true!!!!! So with a bit of a laugh and chuckle let's see how I did on my goals:

My Goals for the first week of the New Year 2012 -

Remember this post on No New Year's Resolutions? Here are my goals as promised!

Health -

Multi Vit. Daily

Emergency C or Airborne Daily
Water Daily
If stamina is built back up begin Zumba

Family -

Plan date night with husband, arrange babysitter

Plan time with Mom

Special time with Daughter - Girl Scout meeting

Organizing -

Update Calendar - B-days etc.

Daughter - back to school/calendar etc.

Girl Scout materials gather in one place (again!)
Meal Plan/Coupons

Grocery Shop

Volunteering -

Plan Girl Scout Meeting with co-leaders Tues PM

Implement meeting Thurs. PM

Prepare craft idea for Sun. for MOMS group

Friends -

Schedule Dinner out

Schedule Breakfast out

Send thank you notes to those whom helped me through being sick last week

Read -

Read more and less FB and TV news


So there you have it, not great for the first week, yet not bad for being down and out sick! So here is to next week feeling better and hoping to accomplish more. I will have a tutorial coming soon. I made a Valentine Topiary for my MOMS group and I will share that with you! I am also finishing up the book What Got You Here Wont Get You There, from my book list and I hope to publish a review for you too.

Weekly Goals.....

My Goals for the first week of the New Year 2012 -

Remember this post on No New Year's Resolutions? Here are my goals as promised!

Health -

(I am getting over bronchitis from last week. It hit me hard.)

Multi Vit. Daily

Emergency C or Airborne Daily

Water Daily

If stamina is built back up begin Zumba

Family -

Plan date night with husband, arrange babysitter


Plan time with Mom

Special time with Daughter - Girl Scout meeting

Organizing -

Update Calendar - B-days etc.

Daughter - back to school/calendar etc.

Girl Scout materials gather in one place (again!)

Meal Plan/Coupons

Grocery Shop

Volunteering -

Plan Girl Scout Meeting with co-leaders Tues PM

Implement meeting Thurs. PM

Prepare craft idea for Sun. for MOMS group

Friends -

Schedule Dinner out

Schedule Breakfast out

Send thank you notes to those whom helped me through being sick last week

Read -

Read more and less FB and TV news

Books I Plan to Read in 2012

Happy New Year Everyone!

Each month I am picking a few books that I would like to read, some are fun, some are for professional development and some will be for my Book Club. Enjoy! This was SO fun to come up with this list. I basically went "shopping" on Amazon.com and picked books that interested me. I am always open for suggestions for good books to read, so please comment. If you want to read more info. on any of these, I linked each one to the amazon for you :-) Happy Reading, so many books, so little time!

January 2012:

The Hunger Games (Book Club Book)

Wicked Appetite (Had a head start on this in Dec.)

What Got You Here, Won't Get You There (Had a head start on this in Dec.)

How To Make Money Using Etsy

February:

Keys To Success The 17 Principles of Personal Achievement

The Help

They Don't Teach Corporate In College

March:

Steve Job's Biography

Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need To Make


April:

Parenting With Love And Logic

Time Management In An Instant

May:

Simplicity Parenting

Getting Things Done

June:

Playful Parenting

The Art of Racing In The Rain

Since I am in a book club, I do not know what the book of the month will be until that month. So I will update you as I go along. At the Jan. meeting I will know the Feb. book and in Feb. I will know the March book and so on. Half way through the year I will update July - December. One more to mention, I am also reading, along with my MOMS group at my church The Power of A Praying Parent. We are reading it from Jan. through June.

The other nice thing about having a plan for reading is that it gives me time to get ahold of the books, since I do not own all of these. In Jan. I can put the books on hold that I need for Feb. and so on. I am already looking forward to planning my June - December reading!

Grief and Loss

A few days ago I attended a memorial service for a Webster HS classmate, who also attended SUNY Potsdam at the same time I did. Laura was a beautiful girl and woman, inside and out. Unfortunately, I was never able to call her more than an acquaintance. There is a charitable fund called The Ana Duo Charitable Fund set up for Laura.

In addition to the loss of Laura, I also have been thinking a lot about my Dad, because the holidays are always a hard time without loved ones. Here is how I can help contribute to others whom are dealing with the loss of a loved one. I did a TON of reading after my Dad died, on the topic of loss, grief and mourning, so I know a bit about the topic. I also attended a conference with Dr. Alan Wolfelt an expert in loss, grief and mourning (can you imagine THAT job!?) Seriously though he was really good! I highly recommend him if you ever have the chance to see him, or read his books. I also attended a meeting on loss at my church, this was helpful as it was done before the holidays and it was about how to survive the holidays without your loved one. Let me give you one disclaimer though, not all people will turn to reading when they grieve, so it may or may not be your thing. If it is I do believe these will help you, if not, don't worry about it, you have enough on your plate and you will find other ways to grieve.

Some of the books that helped me:

1. Life After Loss, A Practical guide to renewing your life after experiencing major loss, by Bob Deits, M. Th. (fifth edition) I can't say enough good stuff about this book.
2. A series of 4 books that were handed to me through Stephen Ministries at my church, you read them in order AND at the appropriate time you think you are ready for the next book. All are by Kenneth C. Haugk

Book One: A Time to Grieve

Book Two: Experiencing Grief

Book Three: Finding Hope and Healing

Book Four: Rebuilding and Remembering



3. Healing After Loss, This book is a great book if you have little time! It provides small meditations for each day.

One of the greatest lessons I have learned on my grief journey, is that you have to do what works for you! Everyone grieves differently, shows their grief differently, so do what you need to do. Everything you experience is NORMAL and it is really important to remember to eat and drink and try to take care of yourself. Hope this helps.

Laura



Goal Setting for the New Year, instead of Resolutions!!!!!!!

I love Money Saving Mom's Weekly Goal Planning Sheet for so many reasons. One of those reasons is my biggest pet peeve about starting a new year is, New Year's Resolutions. I just feel they set WAY too many people up for disappointment. I personally like the idea of smaller achievable goal setting (which is what this is). I love the whole idea and I feel so much better on the weeks that I use one of these sheets and it really is SO simply. Another thing I love about the sheet is YOU create your own categories!!! So if you want to create a goal in your family life, personal life, whatever it is you can add it. Try this for ONE week, I do not think that you will be disappointed. In an upcoming blog post I will also share my goals with you and then revisit them in one week.

Here are some examples of my weekly goals:

Category: Family

Spend more time with my mom

Go on a date night with my husband (plan and organize)

Be in the moment and play with my daughter, or go on a date with my daughter

Category: Health

Take three walks this week.

Take a multi. vit. and Emergency C to help my immune system.

Now I know these sound so simply but if I make them goals and I achieve them by the end of the week, I truly feel better about my accomplishments. On a personal note since my Dad died, the only thing I look back on with him is that I wished I could have spent more time with him.





My Dad...

Dad,

Miss you today, third one without you but feels like only the second one. You were the glue to this family, miss you tons today and wished I could have been more preparred to live without you. Your grandson is thinking about taking Underwater Basket Weaving 101. Love you Dad and hope you and both Grandmas are celebrating!

I know you have been smiling down on us. Thank you for all of the wonderful Christmas' you provided for Bill and I when we were growing up. Many special memories! Thanks Dad!